Alright, sooooo Pick Up Artist shit and technique to pick up chicks is cool..right?..I mean as long as you never see the chicks again and can remain anonymous at the club, who gives a fuck, you can say the same shit as much as you like and try every weird strategy in the book.
Wanna wear a furry hat to pick up girls…Fuck it lets go to hot topic
Wanna open girls by screaming at them in French….SI VOUS PLAIT BITCH
Hey, why make up stuff on the fly when you can just remember the same shit to say every time… I mean everyone is a stranger at a club….Who cares
Oh wait….I forgot…You constantly see the same people over and over again in College..
No one wants to hang out with the guy in the furry hat. People get creeped out by the guy who tries crazy shit to pick up girls… And if you get caught at a party saying the same thing to every girl in the room you might get your balls chopped off.
And last but not least. A LARGE LARGE Majority of your night life will be spent at parties…not clubs
SO HOW THE FUCK ARE YOU SUPPOSE TO GET GOOD AT PICKING UP CHICKS..
(Before I start check out the Essentials Series if you are TOTALLY new to girls)
Well from now on. Every Monday… (You know the day that starts with a M) I am going to be putting out an article SPECIFICALLY targeting college parties and social circle game, because lets face it, 90% of college is based around social circle game. Do not get me wrong, if you have cold approach skills you can quadruple your results, however you need to be training for the league you are gonna be playing in. Having cold approach skills is awesome, but it is not going to sync with the college environment as well as a more social based form of game. So with out further rambling lets get into it
How To Approach Girls at A College Party
One of the worst places to practice technique or high risk shit you do not understand is college parties. Why? Because if you start trying to palm read girls and come off as creepy people are going to remember. If you caveman molest a girl at the club the worst case scenario is she gets mad and you have a funny story. However, if you caveman molest some poor innocent Biology student at a small party you will be forever labeled the caveman molester dude.
This makes party game seem really stressful right? How the fuck are you suppose to pick up girls when everything is on the line, how are you suppose to improve?
Well good news, party game is 10 times easier than than bar or cold approach game? Why, because you have about 100 more weapons to attract girls and half of them come into play before you even meet the girl. In club game, boom, your in her face and you got about 10 seconds to set a an attractive frame and start making moves. Your a total stranger, and you are gonna have to be damn good to get another complete stranger to fall in love with you.
This is not the case with party game though. You are not a total strangers, you are in her social circle, and you can get her attracted to you without risking your reputation. Its E-Z. If you follow these steps and work on being more social, you will literally have girls making moves on you. I like to call this approach priming (Also cover in more depth in Attraction Catalyst), you basically let your interactions with others set your frame with a girl. If you do all of these things, by the time you approach her 90% of your work will be for you
Step 1 :Set Your Role At the Party
At a party, there is always a group of people there that make or break the party .These are people that everyone wants to talk to and they are a link to everyone else. If one of these people disappears, people will notice. Your goal is to be one of these people, this is also INCREDIBLY important at smaller parties 0f 10-20 people. There are always 5 people having more fun than everyone else, and your goal is to be one of these people. So how do you do this, even if you are somewhat of a stranger. It easy, you simply be the most social person at the party.
You might not be the most interesting, you might not be the most funny, you might not be the most crazy…But, you can be the most social.
When most people enter a party, the first thing they do is find a corner to huddle in with there friends until they are feeling social enough. Do you think the girl you want is going to notice you when your hiding in a corner? Maybe if she has a fetish for creepy little butt sniffers. However, if she is a typical girl she is going to be attracted to the warm part of the party (aka where the fun is going on)
So, what is your course of action when you enter a party? First thing I always always do is find the biggest congregation of people having fun, and I MEET THE SHIT OUT OF THEM.
Okay, I have some access to the fun part of the party, now if you look around there are ALWAYS a good amount of people standing around the fun fire, but to afraid to jump in it. Holy shit, guess what it is time to become…The link to the fun. These people are craving for someone in the fun circle to welcome them in and you can be this person. Within 5 minutes you are 10 peoples new best friend and source of fun.
This can sound really intimidating, but it is in your head. A party is a group of people that chose to hang out together and socialize, there are no strangers!
The main places where people are usually having fun is around the shots or source of alcohol. My personal favorite way to get into this is to just grab a bottle of liquor and demand people take shots with me. It is an insanely easy way to break the ice because at the beginning of the night, people are looking to get drunk and for someone to play off of.
Me: Hey man whats up, whats your name. I am alex, SHOT time
Me: Hey you, get in on these shots. Oh Im alex by the way nice to meet you
Me: Hey dude, come over here Andrew is being a fag and wont take a shot
If you are at a party and have not met 10 people in the first 5 minutes you are wrong. It is SOOO easy to just introduce yourself to people. So do it.
Now, if these past 5 minutes you have created a social link with 10 people at least. Now, these 10 people probably know 10 other people. This makes it extremely easy to meet all of these people and then link them to fun. Pretty soon you will have a fan club. People will know who you are.
And guess what, that girl you wanna dooky dooky with will start to know who are too.
(Before we get to the next part I know alot of guys will be like. DUDE YOU JUST WALK IN AND START HITTING ON THE BITCH. Yes, this can work if you are the worlds most charming man. However since your reading this I am guessing you are not. Now, the reason why you first meet everyone is to A) Get your social juices flowing B) Give yourself a ton of social value before you even approach. This way even if your game is meh, you will be in a MUCH better position.
Also, if everytime you enter a party you B-line for the hottest girl in the room and go super direct, there is a very good chance you will be labeled the super direct horny guy very quickly ESPECIALLY if you are not a natural)
Establish a FUN Flirty Vibe With EVERY Girl At The Party
This right here is the KEY, the fucking KEY, to never being the creep of the party. After you have met a ton of people, it will be obvious you are very social. Because you have a social label attatched to you when you approach girls, they will assume when you approach them it is to be social. PLUS! Because you are now a social link they will be eager to talk to you. This is where you set your frame as an attractive guy.
Start talking to any girls around you, tease them and flirst just for the sake of flirting. Do not have a motive or sexual goal. Hug them a lot, get excited with them and just be playful. If you are clueless on how to flirt, check out some of are other articles like Get A Flirty Vibe Instantly, or The College Code Ebook for specifics on how to get this down.
Now look at the frame you have set for yourself at this party by now. You are a very social guy who has fun flirting with everyone. You are a natural flirt, this makes you fun to talk even if your slightly sexual because you have no creepy agenda. Because you are flirty and confident with every girl at the party, you avoid being creepy because you are A) Very social B) Having Fun C) Flirty with everyone, while not having a sexual agenda. This is the polar opposite of a party creep who is A) Not very social B)Not fun C) Only has a lame sexual agenda with every girl her talks to.
By also having a lot of girls on your team, it shows you are a cool guy, and definitley not a creep-a- saurus rex
Does this guy look like a creeper when he is surrounded by girls?
Part 3: Approach The Girl
This seems like the hardest part, however…It is actually the simplest. By now you have established that you are a social link, you have crazy value to the party and are a source of fun. You have shown that you are naturally flirty and touchy feely. Girls like this as long as it is not creepy. You are also blatantly a confident person. If you have not approached your target by now, I GUARANTEE she will be very open to talking to you because you are the definition of attractiveness by now. Hell, by this point she will have probably gone out of her way to approach you.
In short
When you cold approach, your main goal is to convey that you are social, fun, attractive and fun to flirt with. However, this is pretty hard for a lot of guys because you have about a minute to do so and spark attraction. There is also a ton of fucking social pressure. At a college party though, you can convey all these things before you even approach a girl. On top of this approaching people you do not know at parties is natural and normal. All the pains and drawbacks of cold approach are stripped away so do not have to take big risk when you approach. Girls go to parties to meet people and flirt with guys. Period
So to summarize
Meet everyone to establish social value, have a flirty rapport with many of the girls at the party to demonstrate that you are A) attractive B) Not creepy, and then find the girl you want and enjoy approaching with extreme ease.
I am just now finish up my guide on What To Do After you Approach At A Party on our forums. It is in the members section so youll need to sign up, but its will basically show you how to proceed about getting her to the bathroom =P
Till next time. Go fuck yourself
mr chez says:
Firsties… great post two step. I prefer being a creeper though
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ichigo says:
Well, what can you do if you arnt naturally social I am a pretty shy dude
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Be unnaturally social!
Gravedigger says:
I like how you use shots to get people drunk so they will be your friends. +10 cool points =D
Great post man
Biglovin says:
Good article step. ummm.. boooooobieeeessssss!!!!
eastcoast says:
unreal article, keep these party ones coming
TYT says:
Can you tell us how to pick up chicks like John Legend?
Patrick says:
probably one of the best educational ones you’ve written homes. goooooood shiznit.
Two Step says:
……i thought all my stuff was educational
Eastcoast says:
Best article ever published on college flirt