It’s 6:50 AM – nearing my new bedtime of 8 AM, but I’ve spent the past couple of hours pumping this out. I just sat down at this computer and this just “flowed out”.
VOCAL PROJECTION.
This is perhaps the #1 topic in my book. Why? Because VP (Vocal Projection) is everything.
This is going to be a “Final Word” article meaning that I’m going to cover each and every single aspect of this topic that I can so that any future questions that may pop up, are answered here.
Definition (Wiki) – Vocal projection is the strength of speaking or singing whereby the voice is used loudly and clearly. It is a technique which can be employed to demand respect and attention, such as when a teacher is talking to the class, or simply to be heard clearly, as an actor in a theatre.
Definition (CEOArob) – Vocal Projection is the act of conveying through your voice that you are a confident man (aka, not a pussy ass bitch) by speaking at a level that is above the crowd and/or environmental stimuli.
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What is vocal projection and what does it do?
Vocal projection is the most important tool in the arsenal of your “game toolbox”. It lets people know that you are a force to be reckoned with, it makes you known among peer groups, and it makes all your jokes funny.
If girls cannot hear you or if they make you repeat what you’re saying by constantly yelling back “what???” in the club, then no matter how awesome your material might be or how awesome your game is, you’re not gonna get the girl. If she can’t hear you above the music, her friends, or whatever external stimuli is occurring around you, then you might talk to her for a little bit, but your lack of captivatingness (aka your lack of voice/commanding attention) is going to give her reason to wander off into the night never to be seen again.
Now, enough about this scientific breakdown of what vocal projection is. From here on out, I’m just going to write about what my experiences have been with A++ vocal projcetion.
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I constantly tell my friends, “If you’re ever in Austin on 6th street (the infamous party place), then hit me up. Chances are, you’re going to hear me before you see me.” I say this to them half-jokingly, but it’s true.
There are times when I’m hitting it up super will with chicks and I’ve lost them in the nightclubs/bars and they find me.
I ask them, “Wow…all seemed lost…how did you find me?”
They usually reply, “I heard you from across the room/bar/club/patio/etc.”
I chuckle because everywhere I go, I’m the loudest motherfucker, hands down, that I’ve ever met.
This is what happens when I speak:
-When I walk into a room, I command attention not only with my swagger, but with my voice. From the second I open my mouth, anyone within a 5-25+ foot radius KNOWS that I’m there.
-When I speak, people look in my direction.
-When I speak, I speak above the crowd and environment so that whatever I say is being CLEARLY heard.
-When I speak, people KNOW that the party is “with me” so to speak.
-When I speak, girls stop what they are doing and focus 100% of their attention on me – maybe only for 5 seconds or maybe it’s an “instant hook”; regardless, I only need 5 seconds and I’m in.
-When I speak, girls know that I’m not some little “Chodey McNumNuts” who is afraid to talk to women. Far from it…they know that I’m confident and I spark attraction and genuine interest just by being loud.
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What is the problem with most guys when they speak?
Simply put, not speaking loud enough.
Now, some guys have really out-going personalities and they are NATURALLY loud around their guy friends. However,
I’ve seen it time and time again, when women come near, they tend to freeze up and they start speaking with “inside voice”.
Well, from experience, “inside voice” is not going to get you laid.
Jeffy from RSD stated in The Jeffy Show that, “Being loud = get laid”
Well, If I could put it into slightly more detailed formula, it would be this:
Vocal Projection = Attention Attention = Attraction Attraction = Opportunity Opportunity = Sex
Vocal Projection is the way that you carry yourself in regards to your voice (are you a loud or soft motherfucker?).
Attention is the act of getting the chick to focus on you and get into her radar via her auditory senses.
From the getgo, if you hit up a chick with the proper vocal projection, you will garner the attention that will lead to attraction. Often, this happens instantly. However, after that point, opportunity presents itself and it’s really your game and external matters (timing, logistics, friends, situation, alcohol, receptivity, etc.). Then, if the stars align and/or you play your cards right, then the girl is yours.
So remember: Vocal Projection>>>Attention>>>Attraction>>>Opportunity>>>Sex
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This is what’s going on in the club/bar: (I’ve broken these into Auditory, Visual, and Kinesthetic)
-**MUSIC** (#1) (A)
-**OTHER PEOPLE TALKING, LAUGHING, AND HAVING A GOOD TIME** (#2) (A, V, sometimes K)
-Her friends (#3) (A, V, K)
-Other people yelling (A, V)
-Sports videos/TV’s (A, V)
-Other people dancing (V)
-Cell Phones (K)
-Beer bottles/pong/etc (V, A)
-Flashing lights (V)
-Cameras going off (V)
If your vocal projection is equal to the environment, then the girl will be 50% into you and 50% into environment.
More than likely, you’re going to lose the girl.
RULE: On an equal playing field, environment will always win.
However, if there is a greater force/stimuli than the environment, than the girl will automatically gravitate (aka give attention to) to that source.
And remember the formula?
Attention>>>Attraction>>>Opportunity>>>Sex
Therefore, speak in a manner that you are a greater source of stimulation than the environment in which you are in. Be a loud motherfucker. Command attention.
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Where do most guys get caught up in this?
They get in their own heads about how people are going to judge them or disapprove of them for being too loud. They have an internal “volume knob” in their head of how loudly they can speak and they rather prefer not to go above that.
That’s why people say to me, “Alexander…you are a LOUD motherfucker.”
I just laugh and am like, “Hahaha…YEPPPP!” because it’s true.
However, in the very back of my mind I’m actually like, “Naw…this is normal…you’re just really quiet…”
But everytime that I get this question, it makes me think, “Why am I this way and everyone else not?”
This is what I came to conclude: Growing up, I had a mix of being in a culture/environment where it was NORMAL for people to talk this loudly. My father even told me growing up to speaking loudly and clearly so that people could hear me and so that I would be taken seriously. Throughout my life, I’ve participated in different Speech Meets, different public speaking events, singing/acting events, sang in choruses for over 14 years of my life, and have had hundreds (if not thousands) of opportunities in my life where I’ve spoken up, spoken loudly, and commanded the attention of those around me.
Personally, I believe that there is a 50/50 split between the mindset behind vocal projection and also the technique behind vocal projection.
Since this is a “Final Word” article, I’m going to cover both starting with belief.
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What is the mindset behind Vocal Projection?
#1 UNDERSTANDING: “IT IS PERFECTLY FINE TO TALK AT A LEVEL OF LOUDNESS THAT IS ABOVE THE ENVIRONMENT”
This is the core. If you aren’t willing to speak above the environment, then you’re going to find yourself getting shut down everytime that you speak up. This not only goes with women, but this goes in business meetings, social gatherings, and anything else.
If you don’t speak up, then no body is going to hear you.
When I speak, I COMMAND attention.
I remember that I was in my Calculus 1 class for the first day. There were about 200 people in the seminar like room.
The teacher was going over the syllabus, everyone was nervous, no one had spoken yet, and I had a question. I raised my hand for about 5 or 10 seconds until I realized that she was never going to see me and I’d have my hand up forever.
I interrupted my teacher and said, “I do have a quick question…” spoken in a calm, cool, confident manner, but it was loud enough that not only her but pretty much all 200 of my classmates looked at me in anticipation waiting for me to finish.
My teacher immediately stopped and all eyes were on me.
I smiled, waited for the tension to grow a little bit and said, “….where are the bathrooms?” Light laughter from the classroom because this was the question that everyone else had on their mind too. Tension broken.
This little anecdote illustrates that by me speaking ABOVE my environment, I could also take the attention, put it on me, deliver my question, and get my answer. Now, that’s a really simple anecdote, but it highlights perfectly the #2 understanding about vocal projection.
#2 UNDERSTANDING: “IT IS PERFECTLY FINE AND I AM PERFECTLY COMFORTABLE WITH *ALL EYES* BEING ON ME NO MATTER WHAT SITUATION”
This is a much more subtle thing, but this may be the reason why guys have understanding #1 down, but fail to execute when it really comes down to it.
What is a shorter way of putting understanding #2? “I don’t have stage fright”
I asked myself, “Why is it that I feel ZERO fear/feelings of trepidation when I have everyone looking at me?” and the answer was simple. I’m just used to people focusing their attention on me. It’s probably a mix of acting, performing shows and concerts, and putting myself out there all the time, but I narrowed it down to one thing: zero stage fright.
There is a subtle mannerism that I can tell a person who is used to attention and speaking up vs. Someone who is not used to it.
Someone who isn’t used to having “all eyes on them” will speak up very loudly, but they will look around, maybe dart their eyes around (looking for other people’s approval or a “base” to focus their nervousness on), or perhaps deliver their statement strong at first but as attention and focus on them, grows end up with a quavering voice. Sometimes, the person will deliver strong, maintain their composure throughout and then “apologize” for being so loud and abashedly lower their head.
I see this in classroom settings, business meetings, and regular social situations all the time. When I see this I just kinda smile and say, “Welcome…congratulations for stepping up”.
When I see this at night, in the club/bar, on the street, etc., (dude rolls in thinking that he’s super loud and the shit), then I usually out project him and he scampers off into the night.
It’s very easy to tell when a guy is outside of his comfort zone in regards to speech.
For me, when I speak to a chick, I’m as loud as I need to be but I ALSO have that unwavering eye contact with her and am focused entirely on her. There is no “darting around” or “worrying about what other people think of me” in regards to this. I KNOW that people are going to be focused on me and are going to put their attention on me. I am 100% aware of this in my peripherals, but I don’t let it phase me.
Never let em see ya sweat…
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How to Do it?
Cheers.
-AR
MASSIVERay says:
I love you and have missed you tremendously!
MASSIVERay says:
Also I have stickied this so people can actually see it dumb ass.
HPRJ says:
omg yay
CEO Arob says:
Yeah, I tried to do that…AND I tried to add a photo, but I’ve either forgotten how to use WordPress or it just doesn’t like cooperating with me…
Devinz says:
omg its ceo arob
Derp says:
Im having trouble speaking from my diaphragm, is there any tips you can givE?